I’m looking for some positive parenting advice on a particular issue. Fiona has started hitting, biting, slapping, and screaming at me when she’s directed in any way. It’s probably a three-year-old thing, but it has me more than a little frustrated.
For instance, early in the day yesterday, I asked her to climb down from the table. “Fiona, get off the table. The floor is for standing on.”
She looked at me and screamed at the top of her lungs.
“Ugh. I don’t like being screamed at. Let me help you get down and go to your room to scream.” Go over to lift her down and carry her to her room and she starts hitting me and trying to bite me, screaming and crying.
I put her in her room, set a timer for three minutes and wait until both the timer goes off and she’s quiet. Then I go in and this is the conversation that results.
“Fiona, what are the rules?”
“No hitting, no biting, no yelling.”
“That’s right, and..” I prompt, “Do what you’re…”
“…told.” she finishes.
“Was screaming, biting or hitting me okay?” I ask.
“No.” She says. “I sorry, Mommy. You forgive me?”
“Yes, Baby, I forgive you. I love you!”
And then we go back to our day, but this repeats upwards of five times a day. It’s not getting better. What do I need to be doing to teach this? I’m sick of it and I need some new tools.
(Don’t bother to suggest spanking her. It’ll only tick me off. That option is not on the table.)